Bereavement is a distressing experience that nearly all of us will have to go through in life. We grieve most powerfully after the death of someone we were close to and loved, and the process of bereavement is a complex and difficult one which involves a whole succession of feelings. Whatever the circumstances of the death of the deceased person, the overwhelming intensity of emotions that can follow are often unexpected and hard to face. It is important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve. We will all have our own particular ways through the grieving process.
If our relationship with the deceased person was relatively uncomplicated then the grieving process is likely to be clearer to us as we move through different emotions. However if our relationship with the deceased was more complicated, and might already have been bound up with a mixture of feelings, then the grieving process is also likely to be more complicated, and is more likely to conjure emotions such as anger, guilt or resentment alongside love and a desire to see the person again. The circumstances of the death of someone can also significantly affect the grieving process, particularly if you are having to deal with a sudden death, a premature death or a suicide.
It is important that we receive and accept support from others during the grieving process, and that we do not allow our grief to be repressed. At some point we must attempt to reflect upon our loss and how it has affected us, in order to accept it and to become invested in our lives again. Psychotherapy can provide a space for people to express their grief and help them come to terms with their bereavement. It can enable people to adjust to life after they have lost someone, and it can be a space to explore the relationship they had with the person who has died.
If you are suffering a bereavement and would like to talk to someone about it then then please do not hesitate to get in touch with the Portland Practice in Harley Street, London to arrange a consultation with one of our therapists who specialise in bereavement.
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